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Apparently now that I’m not in school anymore I’m all about giant long-form comics. 

Identity is a really important topic to me, and the trope of ‘finding yourself’ is almost as problematic and insulting to me as the trope of ‘coming out’. 

I want to destroy the idea that some identities are less valid than others, the condescension that comes with ‘they’re just figuring themselves out’, and the insulting dismissal of identity exploration and performance in youth as being somehow not ‘real’, or as ‘attention seeking’. Fuck all of that. 

And beyond the fact that  ’inconsistent’ identities are really challenging socially, they ALSO carry these real, actual life and liberty risks; we’re expected to use the same name, orientations, values, languages, and identities across all aspects of our lives, we are expected to have normative identities that can be quantified and qualified and trust me, TRUST ME  when a person is perceived as having inconsistent or unusual identities they are being flagged in all sorts of systems for extra scrutiny and action. I know this from experience. 

So, yeah, this ‘one true identity’, this ‘finding yourself’, this ‘who is the real you’ stuff is bullshit. We are so, so much more interesting than that, and we deserve better.

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My friends who date are a good source of material. As a reminder - if you decide to pay for something during a date, you damn well better not consider that some kind of downpayment for further interaction. 
I remember going on 2 dates with this guy, ages ago. We split everything down the middle, it was amicable but unremarkable. When I declined a third date the email I got in return was 3 paragraphs long and ended with ‘I guess that’s the thanks I get for treating you so well’.

New Comic!

My friends who date are a good source of material. As a reminder - if you decide to pay for something during a date, you damn well better not consider that some kind of downpayment for further interaction. 

I remember going on 2 dates with this guy, ages ago. We split everything down the middle, it was amicable but unremarkable. When I declined a third date the email I got in return was 3 paragraphs long and ended with ‘I guess that’s the thanks I get for treating you so well’.

New Comic!

TRIGGER WARNING: This comic discusses harassment, sexism, rape culture, and toxic attitudes towards women and femmefolk. It includes examples of slurs, harassment, and quotes from sexual offenders. 

*** if I need to add more tags to stuff like this just message me and I will, it’s no trouble at all***

This is the longest comic I’ve ever done and it’s a monster and it took me forever and I never want to draw again. 

Ok, that’s not true. 

I used to take a certain route fairly frequently, a couple of times a week. And there were these two guys who were almost always hanging around on the sidewalk, and they’d always talk at me:

"Hey, red!"

"Good seeing you again"

"Looking good, red!"

(I had red hair back then)

And I thought I didn’t care so much, but then I found myself altering my route, or feeling stressed, knowing I’d likely encounter them again. 

I took the same route with a guy once, and they were there, and they said nothing. But next time I was alone, it started again, and that said it all. 

Fuck those guys. It’s my sidewalk too. 

CITATIONS:

1: Amy Poehler “I don’t fucking care if you like it”

2: Quotes from sexual offenders from… (I read through this shit and it’s terrible awful terrible stuff)

 - Interview in “Rapists’ accounts of their motivations, levels of premeditation and target choices: Some Trinidadian and Tobagonian data”

 - Reddit thread, 2012

 - “Rapist files” - a book

3: Bystander Intervention